Tuesday, January 12, 2010

Teaching with Authority

Gospel Reading today Mark 1:21-28
"The people who heard him were amazed at the way he taught, for he wasn't like the teachers of the Law; instead, he taught with authority."

Once again this morning I am encouraged to have authority over my children and to not second guess my intuition. For our intution is the teaching of the spirit. God gives us the wisdom and knowledge to raise these souls the best we can. Through His authority, He gives us authority in raising disciples. I am reminded through the gospel, to not look at what everyone else is doing, but to have confidence that I am a good mother and that the Lord is leading me in my mothering. For each child is different; therefore, each child needs to be disciplined differently. I have to remind myself often that I am the one in charge during the day and what I say goes. Deep down I know what is best for my children and I need to have the courage to do what is best. The saying holds true, "Mama knows best." These little ones can be manipulating at times and if we don't teach with authority, their future might be in trouble.

So right now, I know I need to get off the computer and give myself (my time) to them. What a wonderful teacher we have in Jesus. He gave his life to His flock but at the same time, taught with love and authority.

Have a blessed Tuesday!

Monday, January 11, 2010

Catching the Hearts of our Children

Gospel reading today Mark 1:14-20
"Come with me, and I will teach you how to catch men." Mark 1:17

Before I begin, I am excited to announce the email sign up on my blog. You can now plug in your email adress and receive Archangel Daily reflections in your email box! Thanks to my dear friend, Jennifer, for setting that up for me.

The part of the gospel today that struck me is when Jesus tells Simon and his brother, Andrew, to follow Him and He will teach them how to catch men. What does this mean to you? When I ponder our vocation with this teaching, this reading to me relates to catching our children's hearts. We discussed at our Archangel meeting on friday how to win our children's hearts. We came up with several different ways, but the one that sticks out in my mind is to show your children that you want to "be" with them. Too many mothers are farming out their children because they have better things to do and bigger accomplishments to be had. One of the mothers said something that really touched me. She has four boys, two of them are in middle school. She said they enjoy being together as a family. They go everywhere together, they eat dinner every evening/afternoon together. She said she and the boys will sit down for dinner at 4:30 if they have to because of sports in the evenings. They never miss sitting down together for dinner. But the one thing she said that moved me is that she enjoys being with her children....that they are interesting people. That comment made me realize even more that each one of these souls that have been entrusted to us are different and interesting. We can learn just as much from them as they learn from us. What a gift! To be given these interesting little characters to care for and to teach to love.

So how do we "catch" the hearts of these interesting people? By being present to them. To enjoy the ordinary days with them. To enjoy the little moments that pass by like a flash. To show them that there is nothing more important to them then loving and caring for them and their daddy. Our vocation is the most important job on earth, for as Pope John Paul said, "the family is the vital cell of society". If we don't properly care and love our family, who will?

Off to make pancakes.... Have a blessed Monday!

Friday, January 8, 2010

"Daddy, Please, Please!"

Gospel Reading today Luke 5:12-16

"But he would go to lonely places where he prayed." Luke 12:16

"Daddy, please, please, please give me that!" This is what I have been sounding like lately to God I am sure. I feel like a little girl begging her daddy for another barbie doll while shopping at the grocery store. However, when the house is quiet and I am in prayer, I know His will is against what I am asking but I continue to think of it and ask for it anyway. I am comforted in knowing Jesus begged the Father to take the suffering away from Him when the time came for Him to be beaten and crucified. Even though we are grown adults and have our own children to take care of, we are still God's little children and it is okay to act child like towards our Father. Because when we are childlike and begging for His will to be done, He is pleased. For we are not taking matters into our own hands, but trusting in His perfect plan.

For the past week, we have been getting our home ready to be put on the market because we found a little dream place here in our hometown with some acreage and a little more space. God knows my heart and knows I am a country girl and I yearn for some space for my children to run and play. Our business is finally starting to become fruitful; however, it is not wise to immediately have a bigger house payment, bills, etc. We need to stay tucked in our little cocoon and give it time. Is this easy? No. But is the Father's will usually easy? No. This little 1700 square foot house closes in pretty quickly on a cold and rainy day with 3 toddlers bouncing off the walls. My ear drums start to ring with a hearing impaired child locked in these little walls. The busy street is a nuisance because my children can't play out front because I fear the worst. But for now, the tiny house payment is nice and this little home who has taken care of us for five years is not ready to let us go. Although I am kicking and screaming, wanting more, God is quietly shaking His head and saying "now is not the time, my sweet daughter." And I am saying..."okay, daddy. Whatever you say." But that doesn't mean I am not going to go pout in my room."

Sometimes is takes a lonely place of prayer to fine God's will but rest in knowing His plan is perfect. Our's is not.

Have a blessed weekend!

Thursday, January 7, 2010

Letting the Spirit Lead us

Gospel Reading today Luke 4:14-22
"Jesus returned in the power of the spirit to Galilee." Luke 4:14

My son, Ben, was up for the day at 5:10 am. So, needless to say I am sitting here trying to write my reflection on the gospel while helping him work a puzzle. I have discovered something wonderful. This is probably old news to all of you but I am always behind the times! I discovered Pandora, which is internet radio on my ipod. So I prayed the rosary while listening to gregorian chant; therefore, I couldn't here Tom & Jerry in the background at 5:30 this morning. As I meditated on the gospel while listening to Gregorian chant, the thought came to me that we have the power of the spirit in us every moment of our day....while we mother our children. What else do we need in life? The same power that rose Christ from the dead and seated Him at the right hand of the father is at work in our daily lives. We have divine guidance while mothering our children. While the world tells us we need to read all of these books and look to professionals in therapy, we have all we need through the spirit. Sure it doesn't hurt to hear what others do in raising their children and what studies "say", but we are given this divine gift of spirit and discernment through baptism. I think internally we know what is best but start second guessing ourselves because of all of the background noise of what others say we should do.

Tomorrow is the Archangel Mothers group that I lead at our church. We are going to discuss the Holy Family and how we are all called to be Holy families. If you get a chance, listen to this site I recently found. They talk about reaching holiness through the family. www.twoedgetalk.com
(For all of you Archangels, wait for tomorrow!) Also, Father Robert Barron has a great talk on the Holy Family at www.wordonfire.com. We will also be listening to that tomorrow.

Off to cook breakfast! Have a blessed Thursday!

Wednesday, January 6, 2010

Facing Your Fears

Gospel Reading today Mark 6:45-52
First Reading 1 John:11-18
"Courage!' he said. 'It is I. Don't be afraid!" Mark 6:50

The readings today talk about fear. Why are we always afraid? Afraid to have another baby, fearful of the baby we are carrying in our womb....will he make it to term? Will she be healthy? Fear of finances, fear of our children growing up to be lazy, addicted to drugs, pregnant out of wedlock, killed in a car wreck. Fear of our husband not providing, fear of them losing their job. Fear of cancer, fear of dying and leaving our children with no mother. Fear, fear, fear.....the list goes on. Jesus tells us to have courage and to not be afraid. He tells us over and over in the Gospel that fear does not come from Him. There is only one place fear comes from....Satan. Fear is never from the Lord. The only fear we should feel is fear of the Lord. This awe in God's presence is a most important gift of the Holy Spirit. At our Confirmation, we prayed specifically to receive this gift. The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom. "Fear of the Lord warms the heart, giving gladness and joy and length of days. He who fears the Lord will have a happy end even on the day of his death, he will be blessed." Sirach 1:9-11
One beautiful way in showing fear for the Lord is to take our job as mothers and wives very serious. To put our families first and to give them our lives in fear the Lord. It means you are focused on the things above and not the things of this world. You will receive abundant graces for giving your life to your family and fearing the Lord. For He gave us this family, and we are not to take this responsiblity lightly. We are raising, nurturing, loving souls that will live forever. Isn't that amazing?

So the fears not from the Lord are not worth our time. They only keep us from the light. They are shadows. When we put all of our fears in our hands and raise them up to give to God, we will feel free. When we pray our fears away, we will feel at peace. Fear keeps us from our dreams and goals of this life. Too many people keep safe behind their desk instead answering the call from the Lord. Starting our business six years ago from scratch was the scariest thing I have ever done. I will never forget my husband crying in the bathroom the morning before we opened. He was scared to death! Thank goodness this fear didn't rule our hearts and keep us from opening those doors. If they had, we wouldn't have been blessed with all of the lessons from the Lord. I take such comfort in knowing my husband is doing what he was born to do. Has it been easy? Heck no. It has been the toughest 6 years of my life. There have been times we have sat at our kitchen table with blank stares not knowing how we were going to pay our employees, much less our mortgage. Somehow, God always pulls through and provides. This has shown us to not be fearful of God's will for our lives. Step out in faith and He will always take you by the hand, provide for you, guide you, and love you every step of the way. The greatest gift he gives you through stepping out in faith is wisdom.

Had I known my son was going to have a hearing loss and that I would have to put hearing aides on him from one year of age on, I would have been so scared and worried my entire pregnancy. Who knows, I might not have even gotten pregnant if I had known how tough it would be. BUT OH MY, what I would miss if I didn't have this little light of my life. He has taught me SO much and he is only four years old! I can't imagine what else I will learn from this hard headed, hard of hearing little guy. I have learned how to help carry a cross of one of God's precious souls. In turn, my faith has grown, my heart has grown and I will never been the same....thank the Lord. Ben has changed me for the best and I am so thankful.

So whatever fears you are facing, place them in your hands and lift them up to God. Write them down and take them before the blessed sacrament. Give them away to the Lord, step out in faith and go for it! You will never know what you are missing until you face your fears and put them behind you!

Blessings to you this Wednesday.

Tuesday, January 5, 2010

Parched for God's Presence

Gospel Reading today: Mark 6:34-44
"He pitied them, for they were like a sheep without a shepherd; and He began to teach them at great length." Mark 6:34

As mothers, I believe we can feel like a lost sheep at times. As we are sleep deprived and taking care of little lambs 24/7, we can feel lost and distant from God. Right now, I am feeling like a lost sheep. The busyness of the holidays and my mind focused lately on other things besides prayer has left me wondering in a vast pasture. I once heard it was normal and part of a spiritual pilgrimage to feel distant from God. For me, all it does is make me yearn for his presence even more. Sunday I just kept the Eucharist on my tongue. I didn't want to eat it, because I knew I was feeling distant from God and didn't want the Eucharist to go away...for it is the closest, most tangible thing we have to Jesus. This might all sound very strange, but as mothers I think we thirst for God in a differnt way then others. As we care for His flock nonstop, our mouths become parched, our stomachs growl for a peaceful moment with the Lord. I believe we are in a constant form of fasting and fasting is one of the most beautiful prayers we can do here on earth.

So today, if you are hungry and thirsty for prayer time with the Lord, but your family is constantly taking your food, remember you are fasting in prayer. That thought alone makes me feel so much better. We are becoming holier by the day as we care for the Lord's flock. No, it isn't easy, but nothing worth anything in this life is easy. Usually all good works for God are hard because we share in His cross and in turn, we become closer to Him.

Before I go, I want to clear something up from yesterday's post. I have had a heavy heart about what I wrote and want to apologize if I offended anyone in my honesty of disciplining my children. I am very old-school when it comes to most things I do, especially disciplining my children. Everyone is called to discipline differently and I know I am doing what I am called to do as a mother when it comes to teaching my children the correct behavior. Anyone who has a strong-willed child will agree that you have to do what works for your child. My son has been so difficult from day one and we have tried all forms of disciplining but the only thing that works is a paddle. My sister recently told me that there was a point that Ben could have turned a different way but we got a handle on his behavior and now we have his heart. That was the best compliment I could have receieved. Everytime we spank our children, we let them cry for a second and then hug them, tell them we love them and the reason for the spanking. We do ALL things in love in this household. So, I just wanted to clear that up with anyone who was offended. I know I parent in error many times, but I am constantly on my knees asking for Jesus to help me in raising His children. I am at peace with how I discipline and peace is from God. Thanks for listening!
Blessings to you this Tuesday!

Monday, January 4, 2010

Mothering in Truth

Today's Gospel Reading: Mathew 4:12-17, 23-25
"This is then, how we can tell the difference between the Spirit of truth and the spirit of error." 1 John 4:6

This particular reading stood out to me this morning. As we mother our children, there is always a fine line between truth and error. I cross over to the error side often. I know when I cross over and know that it is wrong but continue to mother in error anyway. Be it yelling, screaming, cursing under my breath (and sometimes out loud), letting them watch too much TV, letting them eat candy early in the morning, letting them win (getting away with what they shouldn't). We are called as mothers to live in truth, "mother" in truth. Yes, we all get tired and let things slide, but we have to stand for truth in all that we do. Our world accepts error way too easily and often. The way children run all over their parents today is acceptable in this "error-proned world" but completely unacceptable in living the truth. If my children act up in church, I yank them up out of the pew, take them to an empty back room and spank their bottoms. Yes, I might be wrong in the worlds eyes, but frankly, I believe I am teaching my children truth. There is no "if, ands or buts" about behaving in public and church for that matter. After spanking them, I let them sit and cry for a few seconds and then we immediately return back to the pew. Somehow, they behave very well the rest of mass. I refuse to let my children rule over me....refuse. I think this is a huge problem in the world today. Children are ruling their parents way too much.....Parents are letting the spirit of error reign. I believe if we pray for the spirit of truth every morning and ask for guidance in mothering throughout the day, we will teach our children in truth. Yes, we all fail in mothering from time-to-time, but if we focus on mothering in truth...having the spirit of truth in our hearts, on our minds and on our tongue, we will be doing the best we can do at our job.

So today, I am going to focus on the word truth....on what is truth and what is error. Maybe this simple practice will help us divide that fine line that sometimes gets out of focus.

Have a blessed Monday!